Dating midlife crisis
Look at relationships like a series of puzzle pieces making up the picture of your life—there are many different pieces in your puzzle—take some of the pressure off by reminding yourself that a romantic relationship is just one. Be thoughtful about re-entry into the dating world. : Barbara Waxman, President and founder of The Odyssey Group, works with business owners, executives and individuals increase their leadership capacity and their ability to deliver concrete results.The biggest challenge associated with getting back out there in the dating world typically has more to do with self-confidence than anything else. Before entering the dating world it’s often really helpful to set some goals. We’ve all lived long enough to know that having expectations of how people will act towards us and how we “should be” tend to be an excellent predictor of disappointment. Barbara founded The Odyssey Group in 2005 in order to use her skills as an executive and life transition coach for adults, midlife and better.In fact, there are a growing number (in my anecdotal study) of couples where the women are a few years older than her lover. As I read about what brought these couples together, it is almost always based on mutual interests and a deeply held sense of knowing “this is the one.” So perhaps the first question you ask a potential date might be: what section of the paper do you read first? Imagine for a moment that your life is made up of a portfolio of activities.Much like a financial portfolio, think about how you invest your time now; then reconsider how much time and energy you actually want to invest in each area of your life.She didn’t name her significant other, but I knew it was my ex. If my ex came crawling back to me, I wouldn’t have him. And yet, it hurts to see evidence of his relationship and how relatively easy it is (and has been) for him to find someone. In general, divorced men have an easier time finding a date, a companion, or a partner, than divorced women – especially in the boomer years.And then I saw his complimentary comment about her latest photo. Challenge me on this but this has been my experience and what I have observed.
Together, they cited information from 13 references.
I had not done this before and it was not premeditated.
I was searching online for local music events and happened upon an upcoming performance by my ex- and his romantic partner. I had not known the GF’s last name and only accidentally learned of her first name when one of my children let it slip.
I should have known what I was in for when my soon-to-be husband consistently reached for two sections—sports and travel. As for me, well I guess I’m what you might call a “closeted romantic”: people are always shocked to learn that the first section I reach for in Sunday’s NY Times is always and invariably the wedding and engagement announcement section.
I look for interesting stories and guess what: they tend to be about people who marry in mid-life or later.